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Loving-Kindness Meditation (Metta)

Loving-kindness meditation, also known as metta, is an ancient practice of generating feelings of warmth and goodwill toward yourself and others. Research shows it increases positive emotions, reduces self-criticism, decreases social anxiety, and builds empathy. The practice involves silently repeating phrases of well-wishing.

Step by Step

1

Sit comfortably with your eyes closed. Place a hand over your heart if it helps.

2

Begin with yourself: silently repeat "May I be happy. May I be healthy. May I be safe. May I live with ease."

3

Feel these wishes settling into your heart. Spend 2-3 minutes here.

4

Think of someone you love. Send them the same wishes: "May you be happy..."

5

Expand to a neutral person — someone you see regularly but do not know well.

6

Optionally, extend to someone you find difficult (an act of courage, not condoning).

7

Finally, expand to all beings everywhere: "May all beings be happy..."

Tips

  • *If the phrases feel empty at first, that is normal. The intention matters more than the feeling.
  • *You can modify the phrases to whatever resonates with you.
  • *This practice is especially helpful when you are feeling self-critical or lonely.
  • *Even 5 minutes of loving-kindness practice can shift your mood.